3 Questions to Move Us Out of the Drive-Thru Church

Yesterday I challenged you to come up with some steps to stop driving-thru life and instead form relationships with those who are around us. You may need an open document to type in or a piece of paper to write on today.

Let’s look back at our basic list of menu items:
*Sunday school
*traditional worship service
*contemporary worship service
*prayer meeting
*Bible study
*small group
*youth group
*children’s ministry
*women’s ministry
*men’s ministry

How many items from this list are you currently involved in? If you have something to write them on, please do. Skip some space in between each menu item.

For those of you who are members of your congregation, I’m going to guess you pulled at least three things from the menu. Some of you pulled almost all of them. We’ll talk about that another day.

Now, let’s look at each menu item on your list separately. I’m going to use the first item on the list, but you apply the process to your own list.

Sunday School

1. List the names of everyone in your class (Study/team/group/ 

That was pretty easy, wasn’t it? You know their names! You sit in Sunday school with them every week. Of course you know who they are!

2. Beside each name list their biggest prayer concern. This 
        should be current.

Hmmm. Not quite as easy, is it? 

3. Now, underneath that prayer concern, list ways, outside of 
        prayer, your class has reached out to help meet the need or 
        offer comfort during the trial. You must know for sure this     
        was carried out, not just talked about.

Some of you are glaring through the screen at me right now. I know. I was too as I tried to do this. 


Later, repeat this exercise for all the menu items on your list. For now, let’s just focus on what we discovered here.

What kind of relationships are being fostered in the ministry you wrote down in your number one spot?


As you let your eyes travel around the room, how many faces did you see that you couldn’t come up with a name to put on the list? 

I hear from so many people how if you aren’t in the right circle at church, then you’re just ignored. Folks, if your circles are exclusive, you might want to read about Jesus’ life here on this earth. Would he have been welcome to join your circle?


Did you get any current prayer requests down? I have a feeling most of us couldn’t list one for even half the people on our list. 

Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16 NLT

Could most members of your group list any of your current prayer concerns?

Yeah, that’s what I thought.

We live in glass houses, and yet we pull down every blind and curtain hoping no one will see in. Yet scripture tells us to confess to each other and pray for each other. 

We all have struggle, we all have heartache, and we all sin. So, why do we go to church and pretend our lives are so perfect and holy? 

For a real life example of this see Cindy Keating’s post Why Are We So Afraid to Be Vulnerable. Please be sure to leave her a comment and some encouragement while you’re there!


Now, for someone on your list you had a prayer request. Could you list a physical response from your group to that request?

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NLT

Think about your last trial that no one outside of your family knew about. Think about how you felt emotionally. Think about those miracle solutions you dreamed about. Think about the state of your relationship to God during that time.

Now, tell me how that might have been different if everyone in your group had not only been praying, but had physically come to stand beside you? 

One bringing a simple meal. One bringing encouragement in words. And one, perhaps the one you least expected, stepping forward with an unexpected answer to your prayers.

Think about the names on your list. That could have all happened, couldn’t it?

Now think about the requests on your list. How many of them have you had good intentions of stepping out and doing something about? How many of those good intentions have remained thoughts and never been put into action?

It’s easy to see how even the smallest actions of those around us can help to meet our needs, but hard to convince ourselves that our small contribution just might be all that’s needed to meet someone else’s needs.


Let’s make this practical. Choose one person from your list, or maybe one person who’s name you couldn’t list, to focus on this week. Seek them out intentionally. Find out their name, find out a need, and then do whatever you can to help ease the burden.

Will you let me know if you take this challenge? And how it works out for you?

This post is part of Fellowship Fridays at http://christianmommyblogger.com/fellowship-fridays-8-2/

photo credit: Adam Franco via photopin cc

2 responses to this post.

  1. Very interesting post to help us keep this on top of our minds, I like your ideas.


  2. Donna,

    Thank you so much for commenting. 🙂 Please come back and visit again! Usually there's a little more conversation. I must have missed on this one!


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